December - Week 4 - The Gift Of Sacrifice - Today's Sacrifice...Tomorrow's Blessing

If we were to make a list of every accomplishment made thus far in our lifetimes, it is very likely that these achievements would not be remembered without also thinking of the sacrifices that were endured during the process.

Very few things of value can take place without sacrifices being made. Whether it be elminating debt, maintaining health and fitness goals, or nurturing relationships, most things worth having require sacrifice. This week I encourage us to embrace sacrifice, knowing that blessings are the fruit of our willingness to sacrifice.

December - Week 3 - The Gift Of Sacrifice - Love Is As Love Does

To hear the words "I love you" can bring about more feelings of warmth and joy than any other three word phrase in the English language. Movies and songs are often built around dramatic expressions of love, leaving viewers to ponder if a love so strong exists, and others to reminisce on days past and present filled with the euphoric feeling of loving and being loved.

Some of the most sincere expressions of love lie within an individuals ability and willingness to make sacrifices for no other reason than for the sake of the well being of another. This type of love is action-oriented, moving beyond words into demonstrations of the heart-felt emotion of love. This week I challenge us to move beyond words and focus on demonstrating our love for family, friends, and those closest to us through loving actions. Have a great week!

December - Week 2 - The Gift Of Sacrifice - The Joy Of Unconditional Giving

One of the most rewarding and fulfilling experiences is to give freely without expecting anything in return. Sometimes life can feel like a constant hustle. Many possess the mindset of only giving as others give to them. I have found that the greatest joy is in giving from the heart with no greater return than a feeling of happiness in knowing that you have added to the life of someone beyond yourself.

We all desire to feel appreciated and valued for our efforts and we can rest assured that through Christ our pure motives will never go unnoticed. This week I encourage us to give unconditionally to a person or cause in honor of the matchless sacrifice of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Have a great week!

December - Week 1 - The Gift Of Sacrifice - Moving Beyond Self

Happy December!!!

One of the essentials to having fulfilling spiritual lives, families, health, relationships, careers, businesses, and successful financial management is based upon the level to which we are willing to make sacrifices. The question we must consider is are we able to move beyond "self" long enough and far enough to focus on the needs of others and needs that extend beyond our superficial desires?


This week I challenge us to consider what we are willing to sacrifice in order to make a difference in the lives of others and to move beyond simply living to living to leaving a legacy. Have a great week!

November - Week 4 - Your Body Is Your Temple - De-Stress Your Life

Debt, medical emergencies, family conflict, job loss, unemployment, and career demands, are just a few triggers to a stress-ridden life. Even the most optimistic person can sometimes find themselves overburdened with the demands and unpredictability of life. The truth of the matter is with each sunrise as we begin a new day even with the best of plans we are unable to predict what a new day will bring. The only true control we have is over our attitudes.

The root of stress usually lies within the worry, frustration, or disappointment that ensues when faced with obstacles. It's easy to say "think positively" or "focus on the positives" until something happens that shakes your world up so badly that it eclipses any attempt to see the brighter side of your circumstances.

I believe it is important to allow ourselves to feel the pain of tough circumstances in order to deal with the reality of the situation. The key is learning how to transition from that place of pain and disappointment into focusing on the positives. When we focus our minds on all that we have to be thankful for, instead of dwelling on circumstances that only God can control, we free ourselves from unnecessary stress and worry.

This week I encourage you to make a list of situations your are able to actively improve and a list of those things that are beyond your power to change. It is these situations that our faith is strengthened as we seek God through prayer and witness the power of his sovereignty. In all things, place your faith in the one who knows your struggles best, and prepare to share your testimony with the world!! Have a great week!

November - Week 3 - Your Body Is Your Temple - Know Your Medical Status

"My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge" - Hosea 4:6


One of my least favorite things to do each year is going in for my annual physical. Regardless of how healthy I feel, or how many healthy lifestyle practices I have been diligently adhering to over the course of the year, as I go from the waiting to the examination room, I can't help but to wonder what if? What if this is the time something is wrong?

It is this fear that keeps many away from routine doctor's visits until symptoms begin to manifest making it a necessity to schedule an appointment. Hosea 4:6 states that "people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge." This is true in all areas of life particularly when it comes to health and wellness. Some may say what you don't know won't hurt you, I believe what you know can save you. Regardless of how we may dread those office visits, choosing not to be informed of our medical status only denies us of the opportunity to the early detection of illnesses and treatment options. It also prevents us from having the chance to alter our lifestyles in the event that we are at rist for certain diseases.

This week I encourage you to go ahead and schedule your family for an appointment for a full medical physical to include HIV and STD testing. Knowing your status can save your life. You owe it to your family, friends, and to yourself. Have a great week!!

November - Week 2 - Your Body Is Your Temple - Flee Sexual Immorality

"Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." - I Corinthians 6:18

The weather's getting cooler... The days are shorter... And suddenly after being single for the past several months, now seems like a great time to find someone to shield you from the coolness of the night as you envision yourself taking long walks in the park with someone special.

Long walks lead to long kisses... Long kisses lead to "let's go back to my place," and before you know it your special "friend" has a toothbrush in your bathroom, and the long walks in the park have been replaced with escapades in the bedroom...

There is truly something special about meeting someone that stimulates your mind, body, and spirit. That someone who inspires you to be your best and causes your dimples to sink in deeper every time you see their face. One of the nicest surprises is discovering that your attraction is not simply physical but rooted in the very presence and conversation generated whenever they are around.

Becoming intimate can hinder the process of getting to know someone because it takes the focus off of learning more about the person and instead shifts the focus to fulfilling lustful desires. The substance of a relationship needed to bring individuals together in lasting marriages must first begin with the foundation of a strong friendship. Far too often we allow our physical desires to cloud our judgment leading us to spend time in relationships that we were never purposed to be in. Then we later wonder why we haven't met "the one" This week I encourage you to focus on friendship. It's time to end the cycle of high divorce rates, serial dating, STDs, unplanned pregnancies. Become dedicated to learning and loving your mates with the love of God. Intimacy may be fun for a night, but a strong friendship can last a lifetime... Have a great week!

November - Week 1 - Your Body Is Your Temple - Dine With Pizazz!!

Happy November!!!

The holidays are just around the corner, and during this time of year many of us are more tempted than any other time to continue or increase a pattern of unhealthy eating habits. Energy drinks, dietary supplements, coffee, sugar, and fast food are just some of the secrets behind how some of us are able to juggle the endless demands of our every day lives. As we struggle to cram more into an already over booked schedule, instead of re prioritizing our calendars, we negotiate our diets. It's no wonder why so many of us are always tired, overweight, and moody. the answers to many of our health concerns lies within our diet.


We tell ourselves, "I'll eat healthier tomorrow," as we pull up to the quickest drive thru window, or "I'll develop a work-out regimen next year," as we slide quarters into the office vending machine. And who needs sleep with all of the energy drinks and energy-boosting dietary supplements on the market? Most of us have routines and styles of eating and cooking that can be traced back to childhood that are being passed down to future generations as we continue the legacy of unhealthy diets. As the saying goes "when we know better, we should do better."


Just as bad-decision making eventually catches up with us, so do bad eating habits. This week I challenge us to eliminate at least one unhealthy dietary habit from our routines. Trade in that soda for a bottle of water, substitute your chocolate fix with some fruit. Pack a lunch instead of dining out for lunch. It's time that we begin to model healthy habits not only to maximize our lives today but the lives of tomorrow. Please check out the below low calorie recipe, "Spicy Shrimp Stew." Have a great week!!!


Spicy Shrimp Stew

Ingredients:

3 tablespoons butter or margarine
1 cup sliced onion
1 cup sliced green bell pepper
3/4 cup chopped celery
1 clove garlic, minced
2 tablespoons all-purpose flour
1 cup water
1 tablespoon Old Bay seasoning
1 tablespoon crushed red pepper flakes
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper
2 cups cubed, peeled potato
2 cups diced tomato
One 10-ounce package frozen mixed vegetables
1 pound shrimp, peeled and deveined
3 to 4 cups cooked brown rice


1. In a 6-quart pot, melt the butter over medium-high heat. Add the onion, bell pepper, celery, and garlic and cook, stirring, until softened, for 2 to 3 minutes.

2. Stir in the flour until absorbed. Stir in the water, seafood seasoning, red pepper flakes, salt, and black pepper; bring to a boil. Add the potato, tomato, and mixed vegetables. Return to a boil. Reduce the heat and simmer for 45 minutes.

3. Add the shrimp and cook, stirring occasionally, until the shrimp are cooked, for about 5 minutes. Serve over cooked rice.

October Week 4 - Living With Expectancy - Unleash Your Confidence!

Every day presents new evidence of the reality that we live in a microwave society. Most things that we desire materialistically are only a credit card swipe away from our immediate disposal. For the most part I consider myself to be a conservative well-grounded individual, yet periodically I find myself drawn to the lures of the "gotta have it now" mentality. Many attach their very self-confidence to their ability to acquire superficial possessions. A question to consider is how do we feel about ourselves when we are stripped of all the superficial things that give us place in a materialistic world?


True confidence is the fruit of knowing and embracing who you are in Christ. One of the greatest joys is waking up each morning with peace in knowing that because you are seeking God's will, each moment of your day will be filled with opportunities to fulfill your God-given purpose. Confidence is the ability to embrace everything about the person God created you to be. Regardless of the imperfections the world may see, knowing that you are a work in progress and that through Christ even your flaws can be used for his glory makes every day a more promising. This week begin to walk with confidence! You're God's child! Act like it!!! Have a great weekend!!

October Week 3 - Living With Expectancy - Stop Talking! Start Living!!!

When was the last time you sat in a barbershop, salon, or amongst a group of friends as they swapped stories of "if I just had enough money I would... My relationship would be better if... Or if I were married my life would be better because... Or if my children were older I could... And the list goes on and on. Sometimes the person doing most of the talking may even be you. the reality is, life will never present us with the perfect conditions to begin taking the actions needed in order to fulfill our ambitions. It's up to us to make the best of our blessings and to understand that there's no limit to what God can do.

Proverbs 18:21 states "Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof." Words hold an extraordinary amount of power. Sometimes our words can talk us right out of a blessing. Words are often the root of many arguments, unforgiveness, self-doubt, discouragement and even have the power to create global conflict. Not only do words often result in conflict but sometimes we can spend so much time engaging in exchanges of thoughts and ideas that very little gets accomplished. This week I encourage us to be people of action versus prolific wordsmiths. Dialogue is a powerful tool, but dialogue in action will continue to change our world. Have a great week!!!

October Week 2 - Living With Expectancy - Renew Your Thinking

As an educator, one of the most challenging parts of my job is showing students how to believe in themselves. I am a believer that every individual regardless of age, background, or skill level possesses unique gifts and talents that can pave the road to greatness. The struggle is helping them to see beyond their past or current situation long enough to visualize the possibility of a brighter tomorrow.

This mentality often follows individuals into an adulthood filled with ambitions that remain unfulfilled as a result of years of following negative thought patterns. Proverbs 23:7 states "as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he." Too often we compare our lives to that of those around us instead of focusing on achieving our personal best with the resources, gifts, skills, and talents we possess. These comparisons can leave us feeling as if our lives are not measuring up, or that somehow we've missed the mark of success. Our life's journey is not meant to be a mirror reflection of the images of success depicted in the media or society. The beauty of life is that every person was created uniquely and is destined to fulfill a purpose that was divinely designed. Even when it appears that the grass is greener in the lives of others, it is our responsibility to remember that the path that we are on is preparing us for the harvest of tomorrow. This week I encourage you to renew your thinking. Keep looking ahead, your future is waiting for you!!! Have a great week!

October Week 1 - Living With Expectancy - Revitalize Your Prayer Life

Happy October!!!!

Are you Living with expectancy? Or are your thoughts about your dreams and desires more aligned to the following way of thinking:
You believe it can happen but not for you. You know that all things are possible but not right now. You have witnessed and believe in miracles but your situation is too far out of control, or self-inflicted therefore you are deserving of the negative consequences or discipline you are enduring. Or maybe you feel that because of past mistakes, you don't deserve more.

This month as we enter the last quarter of 2010, I encourage you to let go of those thoughts and actions that are blocking your blessing. Begin to live with expectancy!!! Expect that every blessing every miracle is on the way! Faith grants us the ability to live with expectancy through knowing that we serve a God who forgives and is able to restore all that is broken in our lives. Make a committment to revitalizing your prayer life and pray for God to align your desires with his desires and to purge your heart, mind and spirit of all that is not aligned to his will. When we seek God's will we can live with the expectancy that his will shall come to past, and we can rest assured that we are living with purpose.

A revitalized prayer life restores confidence in the future, grants peace, and provides clarity on the actions needed in order to live an abundant purposeful life. Through prayer we are in fellowship with our Lord and Savior, and we are equipped with the spiritual discernment that enables us to make better decisions and enables us to walk in obedience. Regardless of what your situation looks like, expect the best! Living with expectancy means working now in preparation for what's to come! You don't wait for wealth to learn how to manage money, or wait until you secure a job to gain the requirements. Professional athletes don't wait until the play-offs to prepare for a win. Living with expectancy is a life-style of constant preparation and application. Seek opportunities to apply your knowledge and to sharpen your skills in your areas of interest. Most visions don't come to pass over night, they are the result of small efforts that lead to big results. Pray like you mean it, live like you believe it!!!! Live with expectancy!!! Have a great week!!!

September Week 4 - Perseverance - Remain True To Your Vision

In grade school I once owned a bookmark that read "it takes a little rain to get a rainbow." I really liked the quote but at that time I was too young and lacked the life experiences that now enable me to have a greater appreciation for the significance of those words. In order to see the rainbow, we must not be afraid to endure the rain. Sometimes the events of life can deceive us into believing that our circumstances will not improve and that our God given visions are only distant dreams reserved for the privacy of our imaginations.

One thing I have come to love and respect about tribulation is that if nothing else, it forces us to prioritize our lives. We begin to gain a level of clarity that enables us to focus in on what's working spiritually, emotionally, financially, and relationally, eventually removing ourselves from situations that do not impact our lives positively. This week, no matter what you're going through, choose to remain focused on your vision. Committ to doing a little each day to achieve your goals and your latter is sure to be better than your past! Have a great week!!!

September Week 3 - Perseverance - Exercise Your Faith!

"Thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things." - Matthew 25:23

Our level of faith is not to be measured by our actions when all is well and life is moving along just as we imagined. We demonstrate our faith during those seasons when life presents us with challenges that prove to be a test of our faith and ability to persevere. The reason many of us have fallen short of the victory is the result of our failure to exercise our faith through our difficulties. Instead of pressing forward and remaining faithful to all the many areas of life for which we have to be thankful, we sulk and focus more on disappointments to the point that our energy and faith becomes more depleted with each day. This week, despite the challenges that may test your faith, I challenge us to remain focused on the positives and know that through faith we are able to conquer every challenge that comes our way. Have a great week!!!

September Week 2 - Perseverance - Healing Through Brokenness

After sustaining a sports injury, a friend of mine once shared that for healing to occur, the doctor diagnosed that the injured limb would have to first be broken in order for re-alignment and healing to take place. There are some things within our lives that must first be broken before we are able to experience healing. Many times the pain of brokenness is the only way life has of getting our attention long enough to inspire us toward making positive, life-long changes.

We often live our lives constantly in search of a non-existant state of utopia only to be disappointed time and time again when the challenges of life begin to test our faith. It is time that we learn how to expect and embrace the adversities of life. Many desire to have the marriages that last sixty years, the booming business, the well-disciplined children, financial security, the power of forgiveness, the love of having a close knit family, and most importantly a higher level of spiritual growth and peace; however, only those who are willing to go through the trials, are able to experience the triumph. At some point we must make up in our minds that we are either going to give up or trust God enough to press our way onward and forward. Giving up should never be an option, there are too many people depending on you, and need to see your faith in action!!!! This week I encouraged you to heal through the pain of your brokenness. Make-up in your mind that your state of brokenness is only temporary and take the necessary steps needed to guide you to a place of healing and restoration. Most of all celebrate the healing that is on the way!!! Have a great week!!

September Week 1 - Perseverance - Say Goodbye To Your Comfort Zone

Happy September!!!

How often do we set goals, share our visions with family and friends, or spend hours envisioning the day when our dreams match our reality? Far too often we are able to imagine ourselves at the finish line before we consider the requirements that must be fulfilled in order to win the race.

A champion does not become a champion based upon natural ability alone. Every champ knows that in order to have a chance of securing future victories, one must say goodbye to their comfort zone. Battles are usually lost because the same techniques that have proven successful in the past are unable to withstand the battles of the future. It is easy for us to find ourselves repeating the same behaviors, yet we declare we are striving to reach new ambitions.

Like the famous quote by Anthony Robbins states, "If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always gotten." This month as we focus on perseverance, I challenge us to be intentional. It's time for our actions to demonstrate that we really believe our dreams can and will come true. Have a great week!!!

August Week 4 - Embracing A Spirit Of Gratitude - A Joyful Heart Is A Grateful Heart

Many people spend years searching for the key to possessing inner joy. Based upon the society we live in today, one could easily be led to believe that joy is experienced only to the extent that our material needs are met. Rarely do we consider the amount of time, and effort that often goes into obtaining and maintaining our superficial desires, not to mention the fact that having "more" does not necessarily guarantee more joy and peace.

I have come to the realization that regardless of where we fall socioeconomically, the amount of material possessions, or our current relationship status, a joyful heart is a grateful heart. If we are able to maintain a spirit of gratefulness throughout the many seasons of life, we will then understand what it means to have true joy. This week I encourage us to count our blessings, and we will discover many reasons to embrace a spirit of gratitude. Have a great week!

August Week 3 - Embracing A Spirit Of Gratitude - Giving Thanks For Life's Lessons

One of the number one lessons I have learned over the years is that the things I have sometimes desired most, turned out to be what I needed the least. Sometimes the lessons that we are in need of are manifested during seasons of what we may perceive as lack. Oftentimes we miss out on the lesson trying to get to the blessing, only to be given the same test again and again, until hopefully we eventually achieve mastery.

I don't know anyone who enjoys the process of taking tests but most will admit to the satisfaction of receiving an "A". This week I encourage you to give thanks for life's lessons. Every lesson learned brings us a step closer to achieving our destinies. Have a great week!

August Week 2 - Embracing A Spirit Of Gratitude - Appreciating The Blessing Of Friendship

Many of us have spent the bulk of our lives in exploration of our identities, dreams, and ultimately the discovery of our purpose. As we navigate uncertain territory, and shift through the seasons of life, it is such a blessing to have friends who embrace, respect, and accept us unconditionally. Having at least one friend who is there through your ups and downs is truly a gift. A true friend not only loves unconditionally but holds us accountable for poor decisions, and knows how to offer loving criticism. Time spent with a true friend means having a safe place where we are able to let our guards down. No longer does it matter if we don't say the right things, wear the latest fashion, or have yet to achieve what society defines as success.

This week I encourage you to take some time to let those who are dear to you know how much you appreciate their love and friendship. Have a great week!

August Week 1 - Embracing A Spirit Of Gratitude - Focus On The Positives

Happy August!

Today we are living in a world filled with constant reminders of the tribulations and disappointments that are an inevitable part of life. Rarely does a day go by without hearing messages eluding to evidence that rates of foreclosure, unemployment, crime and divorce are increasing.

In the midst of it all it is important for us to take a moment to shift our focus from the negatives and focus on the positives. Just as we can always find something to complain about, we are able to discover that we have many things to be grateful for.

As we work, pray, and strive to turn the negatives into positives, let's not forget to embrace a spirit of gratitude. This week I encourage you to begin each day by making a list of reasons to be grateful. You may be surprised to find that despite what the media, or world around you proclaims, you are blessed beyond measure. Have a great week!

July Week 4 - Achieving Victory Through Radical Discipline - Minimize Distractions: Identify Your Weaknesses

We all have weaknesses or what I will refer to as personal triggers. Triggers are those people, environments, foods, words, or moods that hinder our focus. If your weakness is overspending, your trigger may be going to shopping centers with the intent to browse, yet somehow you always end up leaving with a purchase.

Maybe your busy schedule allows very little time for cooking, making it more convenient to opt for fast food, despite your comittment to eat healthier. In this instance, limited time is the trigger.

Then there's usually that one co-worker, friend, or family member who knows just the right words to say to ignite your emotions. Though you've promised yourself you would maintain emotional control at all times, once again you find yourself having an emotional outburst.

This week, I encourage you to recognize your weaknesses and triggers. Make a concious decision not to succumb to your personal weaknesses but instead replace them with positive alternatives. Have a great week!

July Week 3 - Achieving Victory Through Radical Discipline - Recognizing Patterns Of Emotionally-Based Decision Making

Living a life of radical discipline requires our ability to do what needs to be done even when our emotions tempt us to make decisions solely based upon how we feel from day to day.

Take a moment to think about how many things would remain undone daily if we completed tasks depending on our moods. Or imagine how different our lives would be if our emotions guided our daily interactions? Would we be rude to co-workers, over-eat, break our budgets, would we show up for work at all?

In order to acheive progress, we must be true to the sacrifice and commitment needed in order to attain our goals. With every lapse of judgement or discipline whether it be in our choice of relationships, finances, career, or health, we are potentially limiting our progress. This week I encourage us to monitor our decision making, to ensure that we are making sound decisions instead of decisions based solely on emotion. Have a great week-end!

July - Week 2 - Achieving Victory Through Radical Discipline - Focus On Your Target

Despite how dedicated you have been to your destiny regimen, there is usually one area that will require a little more effort and attention than the others. It's amazing how we may have all of our I's dotted, and our T's crossed with the exception of that one area that always seems to fall through the cracks. Maybe everyday as you complete the items included in your destiny regimen, you notice that repeatedly exercising is the one item that goes un-checked. Maybe it's time spent working toward your purpose, or failure to keep the budget that you vowed to maintain. Regardless of which area you discover is constantly being neglected, it is important to identify the area in need of special targeting.

Once the neglected area is identified, it may be necessary to move this task to the top of your "To Do" list to ensure it is completed, or even set a reminder on your phone to alert you when the time arrives specifically set aside for accomplishing this task. Oftentimes, the things we desire to do the least are completed last or not at all. This week as we continue our focus on radical discipline, I encourage you to focus on your target, aim, and make it your personal goal to hit the bulleye everyday. Have a great week!

July Week 1 - Achieving Victory Through Radical Discipline - Identifying Your Destiny Regimen

Congratulations!!! We have reached the halfway mark of 2010!! The finish line is just ahead as we continue to strive to win in 2010!

This month we will be focusing on discipline. We have fitness regimens, diet regimens, and even spiritual regimens. This week it's time we developed our destiny regimen! Most people whether they are celebrities, athletes, entrepreneuers, or any person who has successfully achieved their goals will tell you that their success was not based on talent alone, but the key to their success resides in their level of discipline.

In order to have a radical life transformation, we must implement a plan of radical discipline. All too often we get too comfortable allowing small tasks to remain undone; always depending on tomorrow, next week, next month, even next year to accomplish our goals.

This month I encourage you to committ to developing a lifestyle of radical discipline. Procrastination, stagnation, and contemplation have no place in your destiny! This week's focus is designing your destiny regimen. Regardless of what has taken place over the course of the past six months, many of us can honestly say that if nothing else, we are able to identify the routines that are working and those that are in need of modification. A destiny regimen consists of identifying the routines and actions that have proven to result in progress and consistantly following these actions daily. Make a commitment to doing these tasks as you continue the process of discovering other elements to add to your destiny regimen. Below I have listed the 5 components of my Destiny Regimen, and I pray that by the end of this week you too will have a destiny regimen that brings you a step closer to fulfilling your destiny! Have a great week!

1. Seeking God's purpose daily.
2. Establishing an atmosphere of peace.
3. Spending time with family and friends doing things that bring you joy.
4. Doing one thing each day toward reaching your goals.
5. Developing a fit and healthy lifestyle.

June Week 4 - Breaking Generational Strongholds - Freedom Through Forgiveness

Happy Father's Day!

For many today is a day of joyous celebration, a time to give honor to the men in our lives who have diligently served as our fathers; however, for others, today is a reminder of an absent father, or stirs up memories of childhood pain and disappointment. Has anyone ever hurt you so badly that you honestly didn't know if it was possible to forgive them? Often times even as Christians our hearts are filled with bitterness as a result of wrongs that my have transpired many years ago. We desire to forgive, yet the pain makes it difficult to begin the process. The enemy does not want us to forgive. He'd rather see families, communities, and the world fall apart with hatred.

We must understand that our lives are not our own. We are called to fulfill a purpose. When we choose not to forgive, we are blocking opportunities to witness, for sometimes it is the people who have hurt us that need our witness the most. True forgiveness starts with redirecting our hurt toward the sin and not the person. We are all imperfect thanks to sin, but we are created in the image of Christ, making us all worthy of forgiveness and love. Trust that God will correct the sin and focus on loving the person. Have a great week!!

June Week 3 - Breaking Generational Strongholds - Overcoming Self-Defeating Emotions

Everyday the media bombards our homes with reports of crime within our communities and around the world. Unfortunately, oftentimes these incidents of violence are taking place amongst family members, and are the result of uncontrolled emotions. When was the last time you allowed your emotions to control your decision-making?

Many families, lives, relationships and careers could be saved if more attention was given to controlling our emotions. Whether it's anger, fear, jealousy, doubt, or depression, our state of mind can lead to making decisions that not only affect our lives but those around us.

Patterns of domestic violence, and other crimes continue to exist within families generation after generation because no one has taken a stance to end the cycle before it is inherited by the next generation. This week I challenge us to monitor our thoughts and emotions, and work to gain control over emotions that may be standing in the way of our destinies and our legacy. Have a great week!


Tips For Over-Coming Self-Defeating Emotions

1. During moments of anger, think for at least ten seconds before responding.

2. Remove yourself from situations that may cause you to react in a violent or inappropriate manner.

3. Focus on the positives of the situation you are addressing.

4. Participate in activites or develop outlets for releasing your emotion or those that bring you peace such as listening to music, exercising, cooking, prayer/meditation.

5. Identify an accountability partner, someone who will be available for you to talk to during times when your emotions become difficult to manage.

6. Consider the consequences of reacting inappropriately. The consequences of reactions driven by emotion are not worth the long term effects.

June - Week 2 - Breaking Generational Strongholds - Defeating Destructive Relationship Patterns

Most individuals desire to have a relationship that is healthy and fulfilling. Even those who have experienced their share of heartache maintain hope of someday meeting the person they will share their life with.

Oftentimes we habitually are attracted to potential mates who have common characteristics, and/or those similar to qualities possessed by members of our families. Whether positive or negative these traits are often the secret of why some relationships succeed while others fail. Take a moment to consider your relationship patterns. This week I encourage you to determine which traits are desirable in a mate and recognize those that repetively appear within our relationships but always lead to a downward spiral. Many of us are creatures of habit, often choosing that which is familiar over that which may be healthier. If you desire to have a lasting relationship there is no better time than the present to begin making better relationship choices. Don't allow fear to hold you bondage in a comfort zone that breeds negativity. Submit your desires to our Heavenly Father, seek his will, and he is sure to connect you with the mate you desire. Have a great week!

June - Week 1 - Breaking Generational Strongholds - Identifying The Root Of Your Struggle

"Every Tree That Bringeth Not Forth Good Fruit Is Hewn Down, And Cast Into The Fire." Matthew 7:19

Stonghold Definition: A place dominated by a particular group or marked by a particular characteristic, a strongly fortified defensive structure.

Greek Definition: Fortress

Which areas of your life need to be stripped away and cast into a fire? Maybe it's a negative, self-defeating attitude, dysfunctional value system, poor financial management, lack of health conciousness, destructive relationship patterns, instability, a nonexistent, or neglected spiritual life, greed, a spirit of procrastination, a heart of unforgiveness, an unteachable spirit, and the list may go on and on.

This month as we enter the sixth month of 2010 we are going to tackle the root of many of the problems some of us are struggling to overcome. In some cases it may seem as if you have tried everything under the sun to correct dysfunctional behaviors, yet the same patterns continue to persist within your life. Often times the battles we are fighting are wars that have been waging for years within our families. Poverty, infidelity, violence, addictions, and other strongholds that can be identified within our lives and those around us do not suddenly manifest. In some cases there was a pre-established pattern in place that we inherited by our birthrights. This pattern tends to make us more vulnerable to ascribing to certain lifestyle patterns as a result of this predisposition.

It is our responsibility to examine our family histories and determine how we will increase the positive traits genetically acquired and decrease and/or destroy the presence of the negative influences that have been passed down from generation to generation.

This week I encourage you to identify the root of your current struggles and determine if it is indeed a generational stronghold that exists within your family in order to pave a smoother path for the generations to come.


Tips For Tackling Generational Stongholds:

1. Identify your current struggles, assess whether the root of your obstacles lies within mindsets, values, or habits acquired through your blood line.

2. Address concerns with family members to determine a course of action for breaking identified strongholds.

3. Create a plan of action for destroying the existing stronghold.

4. Monitor your progress daily. Strongholds are not easily broken, a conscious effort must be made daily to successfully conquer these destructive patterns.

May - Value-Based Living - Month End Reflection

Happy Memorial Day Weekend!!!

Only a couple of days remain before we transition into the sixth month of the year!!! As we conclude the month of May, I would like to encourage you to devote the remaining days of this month to reflect on the direction needed in order to add value to the remaining months of a rapidly moving 2010. Hopefully by now, you have noticed some positive changes taking place within your life, or have recognized areas in need of improvement. We can identify flaws all day long, the key is putting forth the action needed to make a lasting, positive difference. The labor is often tedious, and grueling once we make a committment to transforming our lives, but the results are priceless! Don't waste another moment being overwhelmed by the task that lies before you, get moving!! Embrace life, maximize opportunities for growth, and continue to live on purpose and with purpose! See you in June!!!!

May - Week 4 - Value-Based Living - The Value Of Life Lessons

Many of us spend the bulk of our time planning and organizing the details of our lives. So much time is invested in trying to keep it together that we rarely make time to recover when our worlds begin to fall apart. It is important for us to take a moment to identify the lessons that often come along with our downfalls as well as moments of victory. Often times there are truths that begin to unfold through our shortcomings and success that can serve as catalysts in preparing us for the next phase of our lives.

When we miss life's teachable moments, we can sometimes find ourselves stagnant, and circling the same mountain of disappointment time and time again. This week I challenge us to set aside some time to take a microscopic look at ourselves and the lives we are living. Below are some questions to consider as we search and examine our lives and strive to live life to the fullest!


1. Are there negative patterns within my life that need to be addressed?

2. During moments of success, which actions were the most pivotal to my ability to reach my goal?

3. How have I demonstrated growth spiritually, personally, financially, and relationally within the past five years?

4. Who am I allowing to have influence on my chosen decisions and goals?

5. How has my passion and purpose for life evolved over the years?

May - Week 3 - Value-Based Living - The Value Of A Teachable Spirit

As children we possessed a limitless curiosity and constant desire to learn and share our new discoveries with others. Wouldn't it be wonderful if we maintained this same enthusiasm for learning and sharing throughout the course of our lives? The beauty of learning lies within our ability to grow and plant seeds of knowledge within the lives of others. One of the most powerful ways we can add value to the life of another indiviudal is through equipping them with the knowledge needed to meet the demands of life, and to carry out their life purpose, as well as being receptive to the knowledge they desire to pour within us.

We often miss out on opportunities for learning through our failure to maintain a teachable spirit. Often times after reaching a certain level of achievement or status many individuals begin to view themselves as masters of their arenas, to the point that they are unable to appreciate and absorb new sources of wisdom and knowledge as it is presented. I think we can all benefit by taking Denis Waitley's advice to "Never become so much of an expert that you stop gaining expertise. View life as a continuous learning experience." This week I challenge you to learn something new, and remember to share!!! Have a great week! :)

May - Week 2 - Value-Based Living - Adding Value Through Service

One of the most valuable ways we can add value to the lives of others is through service. Having a heart for service is our ability to give of ourselves for the benefit of another person. We live in a world filled with opportunities to serve and individuals in need of service. Even as we examine our own lives many of us can appreciate how day to day living is enhanced through our connections with family, friends and associates who demonstrate their love for us through acts of service.

Service can range from providing shelter, food, and clothing to those in need, to providing a listening ear. Acts of service can be witnessed everyday, from the simple gesture of having guests over for dinner, agreeing to serve as the driver for a company carpool, or babysitting for a friend. For some, service can be as simple as taking the time to smile and offer a word of encouragement.


This week, I encourage us to find ways to add value to the lives of others. As we celebrate Mother’s Day, let’s make a special effort to honor the phenomenal women who have spent their lives sharing their words of wisdom, support, kindness, generosity, and most of all love. Have a Happy Mother’s Day!!

May - Week 1 - Value-Based Living - Building Relationships Of Value

The relationship we have with God, ourselves, and others ultimately determines the choices we make and the direction we choose to follow throughout the course of our lives. Proverbs 13:20 clearly states that "He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed." This verse may sound a bit harsh but it holds so much truth. It's amazing how often we enter romantic relationships, and begin new friendships without considering the affect that our individual values will have on the quality of the connection that is made.

Even as we pour into the lives of others, we must remember that everyone was not designed with the purpose of serving in role of becoming our future spouse, business partner, or confidant. In order to advance society it is imperative that we ultimately seek to use our gifts and talents to serve and assist those that cross our paths on their journey of purpose. In addition, we should also possess teachable spirits that enable us to learn and grow through the wisdom of others who desire to pour into our lives. Every living, breathing person holds value. Though we may find ourselves at very unique phases of life, we must be open to providing and receiving the wisdom that God lavishes through the lives of his people.

April - Week 4 - Living A Life Of Faith - Prepare For Your Blessings!!!

Many profess the desire to have a successful marriage, loving family, and to live a life of purpose, but how much time is spent preparing and doing those things that are necessary to reach and maintain these desires? Most of life is spent in preparation. Beginning as children we are enrolled in school, equipped with daily routiines, and skills all for the purpose of preparing us to become self-sufficient individuals. As adults we continue to train and prepare to function in roles within our careers, and acquire additional skills as we pursue the various visions that have been placed within us. It's amazing how we fail to devote preparation time to other areas of our lives that we value and wonder why the results are not always favorable. If you are single, when was the last time you attended a conference, event, or read a book for the purpose of gaining a greater understanding about relationships? I wonder how many married couples spend time preparing for the future success of their relationship through nourshing their relationships by taking part in couples retreats, and spending time learning how to enrich their lives as a couple?

The culture of our world is constantly changing as a result of the impact of social media, and technology as a whole. The way our youth communicate is forever transforming, but how often do parents invest time in discovering the outlets their childeren are using as a means of expression?

A true test of faith is the ability to believe that we are able to possess all that we desire and to demonstrate this belief through our works. If you truly believe that you will someday receive the desires of your heart, it is time to enter into a season of preparation in order to embrace the blessings that our faith is sure to manifest.

"Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead" - James 2:17

April - Week 3 - Living A Life Of Faith - Overcoming Fear

Often times the barrier preventing us from pursuing our dreams and living a life of purpose is fear. Fear of what others will think, the uncertainty of the outcome, fear of failure, and simply fear of exploring an area that is unfamiliar. As a result, either we decide to retreat before we allow ourselves the opportunity to explore our ambitions, or we make up our minds that it is better to try and fail than to spend the rest of our lives wondering what if?


Fear is a trick that the enemy uses to fill our minds with negative thoughts that cause us to become paralyzed, and as a result many talents and gifts never flourish. I truly believe that understanding our God given purpose is the key to overcoming fear. Once we are in tune with the direction God is guiding us, the thoughts of others, limitations, and fear of failure become superceded by our faith that where God is taking us is better than where we are and where we've been. It is this faith that will enable us to overcome the obstacles and negativity that we experience along the way. We must remember that each of us possess ideas, knowledge, and a unique purpose that is needed in order to fulfill God's will. This week I challenge us to begin taking steps to overcome fear. "For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." 2 Timothy 1:7


Steps For Overcoming Fear


1. Acknowledge the source of your fears

2. Create a plan of action for addressing these fears.

3. Accept challenges as a natural part of fulfilling your purpose.

4. Study, research, and properly prepare for a positive outcome.

5. Remain in a state of constant prayer, and seek spiritual guidance
throughout your journey.

April - Week 2 - Living A Life Of Faith - Conquering Adversity

Wouldn't it be wonderful if a blue print for life existed that could provide us with a clear cut plan for circumventing adversity? The word of God provides us with the wisdom needed to live a life that glorifies God, and provides us with instruction for overcoming tribulation. The truth is adversity is a part of life, and in order to live a life of purpose we must prepare and equip ourselves mentally and physically in order to overcome the trials that are sure to come our way. Adversity is a wonderful teacher that can allow us an opportunity to learn from mistakes thus eventually shaping us into stronger, more effective individuals. We must develop the type of faith that sees beyond obstacles, and press forward until the victory is received. Along our journey we must stay in tune with God's plan and purpose to ensure that the adversity we're facing is not the result of operating outside of God's will. We can have confidence and faith that we are sure to receive the victory if our endurance is for the glory of God. Make sure you're fighting for the winning team!


Steps For Conquering Adversity

Step 1: Recognize that God has a unique plan for your life.

Step 2: Seek God's plan for your life through prayer.

Step 3: Obediently adhere to God's guidance and direction.

Step 4: Be flexible, and open to making modifications during your journey as they are divinely ordained.

Step 5: Remember there's nothing too hard for God, if he brings you to it, he will bring you through it!

April - Week 1 - Living A Life Of Faith - Discovering The Power Of Belief

Proverbs 23:7 proclaims "For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he." Let's take a moment to be honest with with ourselves, if every individual that we encountered daily was able to take a peek into our thoughts, what would they discover? Would they be greeted by a multitude of negative thoughts, self-doubt, and fear? Or would they find our minds overflowing with positivity, confidence, and an overall spirit of victory? Though fortunately, those around us are unable to discern all of the intricate details of our thoughts, just as the scripture states, our internal thoughts of ourselves usually corresponds with the choices we make, our attitudes, and our overall approach to life.

Many of us spend an abundant amount of time attending worship services, praying, and studying the word of God, but how many of us are truly living a life of faith? If we truly believed God to be who he says he is, would we waste a moment allowing spirits of defeat, doubt, and fear stand between us and our destiny? This month I challenge us to focus on living a life of faith. One of the most importent tenets of faith is putting forth works or actions that demonstrate our beliefs. This month in honor of living a life of faith I challenge us to commit to having 30 days of positivity during which time we will eliminate negativity within our thoughts and speech, procrastination, and fear. Let's step out and do at least one thing that fear has deterred us from completing, that has the potential to propel our purpose!!! Have a great week!!

Tips For Living A Life Of Faith

1. Seek God's guidance and direction through his word and prayer

2. Eliminate negativity within speech and thought

3. Persevere beyond disappointments and challenges

4. Surround yourself with positive people

5. Reward yourself at the end of each day for your diligence

March - Cultivating A Lifestyle Of Balance - Month-End Reflection

If you were able to view the progression of your life over the course of the past three months as a mirror reflection, would you be at peace with the scenes that appeared before you? A quarter of the year has neared completion, which makes the coming days a great time to re-assess, re-evaluate, and re-vamp our goals for 2010. I challenge us to dedicate the remaining days of March in prayerful reflection upon the progress made thus far, areas in need of improvement, and the development of a plan of action for transitioning into the month of April. This journey of living a life of purpose is not always clear cut and easily navigated. It requires discipline, determination, and most of all faith. It is for this reason that I am making the focus for April, Living A Life Of Faith. See you in April!!!


Month-End Review

January - Clearing Out The Clutter
February - Exploring The Meaning Of Love
March - Cultivating A Lifestyle Of Balance

Are you living an uncluttered and loving life of balance?


Questions To Consider During Your Month-End Inspection

- Have I consistantly sought God's direction?
- Is my daily routine effective?
- Which areas are in need of improvement?
- Which areas have I achieved the most success?
- What do I plan to achieve before the end of April?
- How can I better manage my time?

March Week 4 - Cultivating A Lifestyle Of Balance - Live Your LIfe!!!

One thing my pastor often says is "Enjoy life, this is not a dress rehearsal." This statement often plays in my mind as I find myself moving from day to day and from task to task so quickly that by the end of the week my free time is generally spent in a state of rest in order to regain enough energy to begin the cycle all over again. Sometimes we remain in "dress rehearsal" mode instead of allowing ourselves to enjoy the fruits of our labor. It is important that we take the time to ask some serious questions and consider whether some of our daily tasks need to be trimmed. Are the degrees, careers, and lifestyles we're working so hard to achieve and maintain truly what we have been called to accomplish, or are we simply trying to compete with others, maintain an image that is not who our hearts truly desire to represent, or fulfilling the expectations assigned to us by others? How would we live our lives if we lived freely according to God's purpose without having concern for the scruntiny of those around us? How much more enjoyable would our lives be if we made more time to enjoy life versus living as if our worlds would collapse if we stepped away for even a moment to exhale?

Living a life of purpose has proven to be a process of examining and re-examining the decisions, goals, and routines that are manifested within my life and seeking God for assurance and guidance that they line up with his plan. Doing so often leads to the exclusion of doing those things that are not only purposeful but are also enjoyable. Lucky for me, for the most part my path of purpose has been quite enjoyable while allowing me to fulfill the vision God has given me all at the same time. There are days; however, when it's nice to just live without having a constant mental task list to follow, or to just enjoy doing some things that may not necessarily have anything to do with my purpose but just make life more enjoyable. This spring I'm looking forward to planting a flower garden, doing some decorating, frequenting some spoken-word venues, visiting some amusement parks, catching a few plays, learning some new recipes, doing more traveling, and spending more quality time with family and friends, and maybe even trying something new like white water rafting. These are just a few pleasures that bring me so much joy, but in the midst of living my life on purpose and with purpose I seldom make time to indulge in the things that I enjoy doing the most.

One of the most important lessons that I've learned this year is that I am on a lifelong journey, and just like a theater production the show will continue after the intermission. This week I encourage you to incorporate your own personal intermission and treat yourself to at least one thing that brings you joy.

March Week 3 - Cultivating A Lifestyle Of Balance - Embracing Moments Of Solitude

When was the last time you went one day without answering your phone, checking your e-mail, turning on the television, or logging onto the internet? It's amazing how we sometimes live as if our very lives depend on our ability to "stay connected". I understand that in many cases the success of businesses, careers and livelihoods are dependent upon not missing an important message, call, and social networking has become instrumental to the success of many ventures. How often have you been to the movie theater, a concert, or professional ball game and noticed someone so consumed with texting or e-mailing that it seemed nearly impossible for them to enjoy the excitement taking place right in front of them? As a teacher, to add to the challenges I experience with educating youth with already short attention spans, I find myself competing with electronic devices hidden under sweaters and desks.

I remember what life was like prior to the emergence of cellular devices, computers, and social networking. It was during this time that I developed my love for reading and journaling. The largest distraction to be reckoned with during these years was the presence of cable television. Today, I'm sure that even the thought of going a few hours without the rings, beeps, and buzzes that keep us connected to the world seems nearly unbearable for many. I can't help but to wonder how much more productive, peaceful, and relaxed we would be if we dedicated just a few hours to silence and solitude.

Maybe your life revolves around meeting the demands and needs of others to the point that you can't remember the last time you had a moment to take care of your own personal needs and desires. This week I challenge you to dedicate some time each day to having a period of solitude. Schedule some time to break free from the bondage of ringing phones, television, logging onto the internet, and replace these habits with a period of reflection and relaxation. If we're constantly being bombarded with the ways of the world, how can we truly hear from God? How can we truly recognize his purpose if we do not purposefully make time to listen, reflect, and respond? If you feel guilty or selfish for scheduling time for yourself, meditate on the following scripture and remember that the world will continue to turn whether you're in the driver's seat or embracing a moment just to watch the flowers blowing in the wind.

"When he had sent the multitudes away, he went up into a mountain apart to pray: and when the evening was come, he was there alone." Matthew 14:23

March Week 2 - Cultivating A Lifestyle Of Balance - The Art Of Saying NO!

In a perfect world we would be able to respond to all e-mails upon receipt, return phone calls within a day's time, chair every committee, take on and lead multiple projects, and attend every event that we are invited to, all while trying to remain spiritually centered, making a living, advancing our education, catering to the needs of spouses, raising children, and trying to make time along the way to have fun. The reality is that there is a limit to the number of commitments we are able to manage before evidence of neglect begin to appear within areas of our lives that are not receiving the necessary attention.

Day to day many of us strive to be everything to everybody without considering if we're truly able to shuffle additional responsibilities and requests into our already full lives. The term being a "people pleaser" is often used to describe the personality types that find it difficult to say NO, when being presented with demands that stretch them beyond their limitations. There have been times when I have been guilty of being a people pleaser, simply because just as the term suggests, I wanted everyone to be pleased. My love for helping and supporting others often left very little time to spend with God or for myself, often leaving me feeling very exhausted. I am so thankful for the light bulb moment when I discovered that there's only one of me. One person cannot be everywhere, with everybody, all of the time, and live a God-centered life of purpose. Even today I have to remind myself of this each time I am tempted to overcommit myself to people and causes that are in need. I strongly believe in living a life of purpose and supporting others in fulfillinig their purpose; however, I am convinced that it can be done with balance.

This week I encourage you to empower yourself to say NO, when asked to take on tasks that will leave you unbalanced, overextended, and depleted of energy. What good is taking on additional committments if you will only later find yourself bitter, resentful, and eventually stepping down from a new responsiblity that was never purposed for you to take on? The truth is, no matter how hard we try to mold our lifestyles into that of a superhero, there's only one God, and even he rested on the seventh day!


Tips For Identifying When It's Time To Say NO!

1. Seek spiritual guidance before taking on new responsiblities

2. Meditate on past experiences, determine how much you are able to balance before evidence of burn-out begin to surface.

3. Calculate how much time remains after your daily non-negotiables are fulfilled.

4. Determine if the task you are considering holds meaning, and adds value to the lives of others.

5. Prepare yourself for the disappointment others will express when you are unable to fulfill their requests.

March Week 1 - Cultivating A Lifestyle Of Balance - Identifying Daily Non-Negotiables

January's focus was clearing out the clutter, February was dedicated to exploring the meaning of love and now as we enter the third month of 2010 the one thing I desire more of is balance. In the midst of striving to win in 2010 I've discovered that I am making positive progress in some areas while very little attention is being given to others. Life can sometimes feel like a see-saw, we often find ourselves experiencing success and acheiving goals yet the downside to our success is that often times our families, relationships, peace, health and overall well-being suffer as a result. As I was pondering whether the sacrifices I have been making for the sake of fulfilling personal goals were worth the late nights, days of fatigue, disconnectedness I often feel from family, friends, and the world, the answer was an absolute no. Yes, there are times when our time may be limited and we may not always have the freedom to spend the time with people and enjoying the activities that make life pleasurable as often as we would like, but I truly believe that with more focus given to balance, we can still live lives that are more well-rounded.

Periodically I find myself going through stages of being either extremely focused on fulfilling my life purpose, or either unable to focus on anything beyond relaxation and having fun. In the midst of living with purpose I often find myself isolated, to the point of nearly disconnecting myself from the very people who love and support me in all that I do. Or finding myself too fatigued to take the necessary steps needed in order to fulfill my goals, eventually resulting in having to devote a few days to catching up on rest, or recovering from illness created by lack or rest or stress. Then on the other hand when I become too relaxed, very little gets accomplished, and I find myself wondering where the days have gone. These experiences have taught me that too much of anything can lead to negative results, once again confirming the importance of balance.

In an effort to live a more balanced life, this week's focus will be dedicated to identifying daily non-negotiables. We must identify which tasks, and responsibilities must be adhered to daily in order to maintain lives of peace and balance. There are certain things that must be done daily in order to maintain our relationships, health, careers, finances, and the overall business of orchestrating our lives. Once these non-negotiables are identified we can then decide how the remaining time will be utilized. This may mean less time for doing the things that our hearts yearn to do 24 hours per day, 7 days a week, but in return we are actually achieving the type of balance that will sustain us and provide the support and structure needed as we pursue our purpose and passion.


Steps For Identifying Non-Negotiables


Step 1: Plan how you would like to began each day
(Meditation, Prayer, Breakfast, Music, Journaling, exerising ect)

Step 2: Identify the tasks that must be accomplished daily in
order to maintain peace and order
(arriving to work on-time, cooking, time spent with family/friends, managing finances
cleaning/organizing, time devoted to fulfilling personal goals ect.)

Step 3: Schedule time for fulfilling the identified non-negotiables.

Step 4: Determine a daily cut-off time, tasks that are not completed by this time, if possible should be scheduled for another day.

Step 5: Develop an end of day, nightly wind-down ritual.


There's a popular quote by John Lennon that says "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans," which lets us know that even in the midst of a perfect plan life happens! Yes, some days we may have to work a little later, yes, there will be days when we feel a little out of balance, but by putting our plan into practice we can reduce our lack of balance and develop routines and lifestyles that with time become more statisfying and fulfilling.

February Week 4 - Exploring The Meaning Of Love - Developing A Heart Of Forgiveness

One of the most challenging aspects to maintaining and developing healthy relationships for many individuals is learning how to forgive. How often do we find ourselves putting our guard up when meeting new people as a result of the hurt we've experienced through past friendships, romantic relationships, and even pain inflicted by a family member? Harboring this type of unforgiveness limits our opportunities to experience the beauty of building potentially long-lasting and purposeful relationships. A heart of unforgiveness not only stunts the growth of relationships but the stress of harboring resentment can also affect our health and overall out look on life.

Stress has been identified as the source of many illnesses to include some forms of cancer, heart attacks, high blood pressure, mental disorders, and Rheumatoid arthritis to name a few. Often times the easier option is to block negative events and disappointments from our minds, or dissassociate ourselves from the people who have hurt us. Regardless of how many relationships we end or painful memories we suppress, the pain still remains. Through developing a heart of forgiveness, many relationships can be restored, and even made stronger through the lessons learned during the process of forgiving. Though in many cases the severity of trauma we have experienced may make it difficult for us to even consider forgiving, we must remember that in order to be forgiven, one must also forgive.

"But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses." Mark 11:26



Suggestions For Developing A Heart Of Forgiveness


1. Acknowledge the source of unforgiveness or deed for which you are in need of forgiveness.

2. Pray and seek counsel or spiritual guidance as to how to begin the forgiveness process.

3. Address the problem by writing a letter or arranging a time for meeting with the person or persons with whom you have a need to forgive or are in need of being forgiven.

4. Be patient with yourself

February Week 3 - Exploring The Meaning Of Love - Making Time To Love

It's amazing how often we complain of there just not being quite enough hours in the day to accomplish all of the tasks on our "to do" lists. The truth of the matter is that regardless of how many things are left undone, we tend to make time to do what we want to do. Notice that I didn't say that we make time for the people that matter to us most, or the causes that are closest to our heart, nor did I refer to time devoted to fulfilling our life purpose. Unfortunately sometimes the people who we love the most are likely to take a back seat as we pursue our passions and strive to live with purpose. Then there are some days when even the passion we have for living a life of purpose becomes stagnant as we become immersed with the demands of day-to-day life.

When I examine my day-to-day routine, there are a few things that I know that no matter how busy my schedule becomes I am sure to take time to do. Whether it's eating, watching Oprah, reading, listening to music, or chatting with a special friend, there are some things that bring us so much peace and joy that we wouldn't think to go a day without making sure they were done. These are called the things that we naturally want to do, and sometimes in the process of doing what we want to do we fail to do what is needed in order to maintain positive relationships. It's a blessing when our wants and needs align so that as we fulfill our wants our needs are being met simultaneously; however, there are times when we must make a committment to stretch ourselves beyond our comfort zones and do a little something each day to demonstrate our love for our family and friends.

I encourage us to put aside some time each day this week to do something to nurture our relationships. That includes our relationships with ourselves. Sometimes we become so busy that even our needs are placed on the back burner. It's easy to do what we want, but love requires unselfishly giving, and through giving needs are fulfilled. Have a Happy Valentine's Day!!! :)

February Week 2 - Exploring The Meaning Of Love - Positive Communications

Remember the phrase "sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me?" Sounds nice, but the truth is words do hurt. I'm sure that many of us can think back to childhood memories of being teased and taunted and how the negativity of the words used left us with feelings of inadequacies. The reality is that words are powerful. They can either be used to empower or serve as the source of a break-down in one's self-esteem. This week as we continue to focus on the meaning of love, we must be mindful of the words we use when communicating with others. James 1:19 encourages us to be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Sometimes the best decision we can make when communicating is practicing our right to remain silent. Silence can result in enhanced listening, time to reflect on the dialogue taking place, and gives us power over our emotionally-driven responses. This week before releasing words into the atmosphere that cannot be taken back, take a moment to reflect, and rethink before responding.